I am an administrator for a Facebook group that caters to all of Alberta here in Canada. As of this writing we are 4 members shy of 3,000 and as you can expect, things can sometimes get pretty heated.
This weekend saw a situation that has troubled me for some time and has prompted me to write an article that I hope will be passed on to others. As probably my first ever REAL article please bear with me if some parts don’t exactly make sense.
The situation in question involved a member who posted images from a zombie photoshoot that featured children as both zombie and victim. I understand how this subject matter might not sit well with some viewers, but in my understanding there is nothing illegal about it in any way. I should point out, that the photoshoot was done by the kids’ mom.
However one gentleman was extremely angered by the session. Claiming it was child abuse and negligent parenting he threatened to contact child protective services on the parent and condemned myself and the admin crew for being complicit in the matter. I did my best to explain that there was technically nothing illegal about them and that I couldn’t remove the photos simply because he didn’t like them. I gave him his opportunity to express his concern and opinion and agreed with him that he truly felt the children in danger that he should most certainly contact Child Protective Services.
Another member got involved and over the course of around half an hour I struggled to diffuse the situation, hear all sides, and permit everyone their moment to express themselves.
And then the name calling started.
That’s where I drew the line. Several times I clearly requested that the conversation remain civil but this gentle chose to ignore me and I had to ban him from the group.
Now, I understand getting emotional over something you feel strongly about. I myself am acutely aware of how frustrating it can be when you feel no one is listening to your side of the story. But I work damn hard to show every single person I deal with on daily basis as much respect as I can. Even if they don’t deserve it.
It seems that every day more and more people stop having respect for others. Models and photographers and makeup artists alike all seem to struggle with certain people across their industries who seem to go out of their way to disrespect people and undermine the efforts of good people.
We should all be working together to help each other succeed. Raise people up, don’t bash them down. You never know when you might need the help and support of someone you’ve treated poorly. Or when you might have to work with them.